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Don't Give Yourself Away by YouAreViolentRed Don't Give Yourself Away by YouAreViolentRed
This self portrait turned out much more serious-looking than I intended it to. It was supposed to be a bit funny but looking at it finished, I wouldn't call it that at all. All I am trying to say with this photo is that I find it so sad how many people who could be great artits/musicians/actors/writers give up their dream for a more 'sensible' and 'reliable' field, for fear of failing or being poor.

I remember telling my dad when I was a kid that I wanted to be an actor, and his response every time was to raise his eyebrows and say matter-of-factly; "Lotta actors out of work". It made me forget the dream for a long time. Luckily, for some reason I was never told not to pursue photography, but many, many people have been. I went to high school with a girl whose parents had taught her that you literally couldn't get a job as an artist. As in, those jobs actually did not exist. Being an artist for a living, to her, was literally like being a dragon for a living. You could pretend and have fun but an actual career was make-believe. She really liked art, too. We were both sixteen by the time I found out, and told her that there were many jobs out there for artists.

I think it's awful that people would lie to their kids to mold them into something they believe is more likely to achieve success (read: money). If your dream is risky, work harder. Don't give that part of you away.

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This photo is from day 7 of my 365 project! I haven't decided yet if I will post every photo on deviantart, but if you'd like to see them all together, have a look at my 365 Days Project set on my Flickr! [link]

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28/06/2012: I also want to thank everyone so much for sharing their stories in the comments section. It's amazing reading how people feel differently and similar, and hearing the specifics of either your struggle or otherwise. I haven't replied to every comment but I really appreciate reading about each of your experiences :-) so thank you
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Given 2012-07-16
With profundity, the message portrayed is extremely thought-provoking in this self-portrait. The suggester says, "The message is really meaningful", and though some say photographs should stand by themselves, the story behind this particular piece is a truly poignant one.

Don't Give Yourself Away by ~YouAreViolentRed ( Suggested by TeruKun and Featured by 3wyl )
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Runetail-Silveth Featured By Owner Feb 24, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
If your dream is risky, work harder. Don't give that part of you away.

What an excellent message. 
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arachnopavel Featured By Owner Sep 25, 2014
cdnpix.com/show/imgs/e597d4150… :)
Seriously though. Regardless of the original intent, the photo is very strong. That's how market affects human curiosity and creativity, that's where both science and art are struggling together, being measured and judged in market terms of profitability. I think that the disappointment in social and technical progress in the modern society is mostly, if not entirely, driven by the fact that we let the market perform the expertise, that supposed to be _social_ in the first place, to decide what's worthy and what's not. But fortunately for art, it doesn't take big money, expensive equipment and many years of work to exist in all its diversity - at least not as often and as much as the modern science does... I hope we won't let the copyright madness take this remaining freedom from us, in the end. And excuse me for politics in this comment, maybe it's too much.
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penguinlove2506 Featured By Owner May 29, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
So, in school a while back, the guidance counselor had us do this weird thing where they had us think about what we wanted to do when we grew up. After that, we did this silly worksheet, and I had raised my hand and talked to the counselor one on one. I told her that I wanted to be an artist and she said "Not many artists make it out there. They mostly live in apartments and don't make a whole lot if they aren't that big." I nodded, thanked her, and sat there, staring at my paper, aghast why she would have ever told me that. I thought, Well, there goes my dream. Wait no, it's still here. It's just shattered on the floor in a million pieces in front of me. But now, looking back on it, I feel roe inspired to draw than ever. I don't know if it;s just because I want to prove her wrong, and that I can become a good artist or what, but it's a passion that's risen up again. Heck, that's part of the reason I joined DeviantArt, to be inspired and to get better. I may have given up a bit then, but I sure as heck am not giving up now. As we're young, we get so many people telling us our dream jobs so to speak are foolish, impossible, or No, you're not cut out for it. Well guess what? To all those people who keep anyone down or tell anyone what can and can't be: screw you. 
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YouAreViolentRed Featured By Owner Sep 9, 2014  Student Photographer
It's a nice idea to be driven solely by the desire to achieve for yourself, but I honestly think that proving the bastards wrong can be just as good a motivator! It's fantastic to see that she didn't extinguish your fire!! <3
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ThE-PrOpH3T Featured By Owner Jan 22, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Would you mind if I pencil sketched this?
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YouAreViolentRed Featured By Owner Jan 25, 2013  Student Photographer
I wouldn't mind at all! :-) I'd adore it if I could see it when you're finished!
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ThE-PrOpH3T Featured By Owner Jan 25, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Sure! I'll contact ya when I'm done.
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JackDenim17 Featured By Owner Jun 26, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
I'd like to see that too :meow:
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dismaldaydreamer Featured By Owner Dec 20, 2012  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
We creative types are something special and should pursue jobs that let us display our talents. That's what we're good at, after all. I say save the ordinary jobs for the ordinary people.
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archangelsintic Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2012
love it man, im currently working to enter the field of graphic arts (in my case, photoshop) and this really does just get to me. the story you put in the description reminds me of a friend too. anyways, great post
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DanteSangreal Featured By Owner Oct 15, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
Just wanted to let you know I I've linked this image from [link]
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YouAreViolentRed Featured By Owner Oct 19, 2012  Student Photographer
Awesome, thanks for letting me know! My facebook is [link] if you wanted to link it in the credit :-)
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DanteSangreal Featured By Owner Oct 21, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
I'd love to, however I only shared the link to your DA image so I can't change it to include your FB.
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YouAreViolentRed Featured By Owner Oct 23, 2012  Student Photographer
That's all good :-) Just shared it in case you wanted to/were able to.
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DanteSangreal Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
No problem! :)
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eoliane Featured By Owner Sep 26, 2012
i'm really in love with this one, it's so powerfull
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BurntBlackRose Featured By Owner Aug 25, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
Love this photo! So emotional and powerful...! It may not have turned out as light-hearted as you intended, but it definetly didn't lose anything!
~Rose
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BringontheSnowStorm Featured By Owner Aug 23, 2012
Thank you for making this and writing such an inspiring description to go with it. I keep getting told that I wont make money as a photographer or that its easier to do something else, something that people see as an "actual job". I'm going to keep coming back to this every time they start to win. Thank you for helping me believe in myself and my dreams again .
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YouAreViolentRed Featured By Owner Aug 25, 2012  Student Photographer
You are so welcome, I'm so happy that you can find some encouragement in it. I don't believe anyone can say that photography isn't a real job anymore, the market is definitely expanding and in our lifetime photographers & designers will be more in demand than ever! Don't ever give up :-D
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Kriloner Featured By Owner Aug 20, 2012  Hobbyist Photographer
Tell me a joke =)
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YouAreViolentRed Featured By Owner Aug 20, 2012  Student Photographer
Finally!! A customer! Here are my rates:

'Yo Mama' joke = a crispbread cracker
Knock-knock joke = plain bagel
Funny knock-knock joke = cheese bagel

If you want multiple jokes, or even an entire stand-up routine, we can work out and equitable exchange through catering options.
Thanks for helping support my new career path :-)
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Kriloner Featured By Owner Aug 21, 2012  Hobbyist Photographer
I have 2 croissants, 1 baguette and some cheese to trade (french inside)

What could you do for such a treasure?
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simplecity8km Featured By Owner Aug 8, 2012
o m g
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BiBiARTs Featured By Owner Aug 7, 2012  Hobbyist Photographer
Happy Birthday DA feature your work [link] :iconspreadmoreloveplz:
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YouAreViolentRed Featured By Owner Aug 7, 2012  Student Photographer
Thank you very much! You have a wonderful selection there :-)
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BiBiARTs Featured By Owner Aug 8, 2012  Hobbyist Photographer
always my pleasure, love your work and hope, you give your feedback here [link] :love:
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Juroch Featured By Owner Aug 6, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
nailed it - so inspiring
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SilentCrescendo16 Featured By Owner Aug 1, 2012  Student Photographer
Powerful, I love it
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Juno-Janus Featured By Owner Jul 31, 2012  Professional Photographer
You've been featured .... the correct feature link - [link]
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Juno-Janus Featured By Owner Jul 31, 2012  Professional Photographer
:hug: My dear friend you've been featured in my journal - [link]
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Tajonal Featured By Owner Jul 25, 2012
this is an amazing piece. It captured me immediately.
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thedentist4 Featured By Owner Jul 22, 2012
thumbs up
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BiBiARTs Featured By Owner Jul 21, 2012  Hobbyist Photographer
Your beautiful shot is featured in our group's weekly feature :iconsoulcollectors: [link] :hug:
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YouAreViolentRed Featured By Owner Jul 21, 2012  Student Photographer
Huzzah!! Thank you!
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BiBiARTs Featured By Owner Jul 22, 2012  Hobbyist Photographer
always my pleasure, love your work and hope, you give your feedback here [link]
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He-Who-Smiles Featured By Owner Jul 20, 2012  Hobbyist Photographer
Too True. Never give up on a dream.
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Deborah-Valentine Featured By Owner Jul 20, 2012  Professional Traditional Artist
When I told my father i wanted to go to art school he said , "You should be a waitress and make some real money"
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iliasasdf Featured By Owner Jul 20, 2012
This is neither funny nor serious.
You original intentions justify the bad disguise.
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Aglaismilberti Featured By Owner Jul 19, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
When I was young I wanted to be an entomologist until I went to the university and discovered that 99% of entomologists sit behind desks identifying common insects and advising people on pest control.... Devastated I returned home. One night I was working in my lab looking over all my experiments and specimens. Then I realized I'd always been an entomologist.
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Dwayne-L Featured By Owner Jul 19, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
This is such an important message! Great piece!
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Desert-Chimera Featured By Owner Jul 18, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
So... I SHOULD try to be a game designer... All my friends tell me that I have a knack for finding glitches and analyzing everything about a game. Every. Little. Things. From the effectiveness of a control scheme, to the graphical design and art style...

I think this photo may have changed my mind about becoming a Network Architect over my passion for games, and the dream of making all my visions into a reality. Or at least a virtual one.
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MissPaperJoker Featured By Owner Jul 18, 2012  Student Traditional Artist
Ohhh please please please post every photo of the 365 Days Project! Make an extra folder, just like you did on flickr, and please! The rest are already so beautiful, I want to see what you do for every day! *__*
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YouAreViolentRed Featured By Owner Jul 19, 2012  Student Photographer
Wow! :-) Thank you for the encouragement! I will think about it, I try to keep my deviant art for only my best work and it's inevitable that not every 365 photo will be good. I will, at the very least, upload more than I might have. And yes, I will make a folder. That's a good idea.
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MissPaperJoker Featured By Owner Jul 24, 2012  Student Traditional Artist
In that youŽre of course right, not every one will be perfect.
IŽll still look forward to those you choose, thou :) And the rest on flickr!
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dracoraknight Featured By Owner Jul 18, 2012
I agree with the point you made so strongly. I myself as a writer have been constantly discouraged by my father in pursuing my goals. They always tell me not to try to achieve my goal of becoming an author because to them it is too risky, and I'd probably fail. I do my best when I write, and I'm working towards my goal, my motivation is to prove them wrong, and that I can and will make a living from being a writer. If you never try, then you always fail. I have had it thrown into question multiple times by multiple people. They've almost shattered my dream at times. Though, somewhere along the line I've decided that it is something I've always wanted to do, and I'm going to be sure as hell to try my best at it.

People need to allow their children to explore and pursue their dreams and goals. Instead of stamping out their talents, nurture them. Help them strive for greatness in what they have chosen for themselves. Also teach them to know their limits and abilities so that they are less likely to go in over their heads, because that is when you are most likely to fail. Be there for them, encourage them, and help them get up when they fall. Remind them to learn from their mistakes that got them there and send them off to try again.
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ToddNTheShiningSword Featured By Owner Jul 18, 2012  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
I liked reading your comment and am glad for you and wish you luck.

But... to play devil's advocate, I think it might sometimes be good when parents discourage their kids from doing riskier things like art or writing for a living.
Being something like that requires much more passion and motivation that a boring 9-5, and maybe the kids who's dream is crushed wouldn't have had enough passion anyway. The kids who truly have enough love and passion for their art will follow their dream with great determination no matter how many people tell them they can't, and no matter how many times they hear "You can't do that".
Maybe that way the ones who would not have made it are saved the time and trouble of finding out that way, and they can just go become accountants or something else that pays the bills.

I think most of the people who accomplished anything great heard "You can't" many, many times.

Just thought I'd add, I always had people supporting me and telling me I could do anything, and I actually regret that. The stuff I wanted to do was totally unreasonable, and no one told me that... and I failed. Now I'm in my 30s, and only worked in fast food. I'd be a lot better off financially I think if my parents had just told me what I could and couldn't be, and they'd put me on the path to something more reliable than art.
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dracoraknight Featured By Owner Jul 19, 2012
I do agree with you in part.
I believe though then rather a flat out "no you can't" I think parents should tell their children, or rather anyone should rather tell them if they honestly think that at that moment they might not be good enough. Explaining to them why, would be a lot better, especially if it gave them obstacles that they would need to overcome.
That way, if they overcome those obstacles, it would be a good measure for the person to realize whether or not continuing their dreams is reality.
I totally understand that telling one's child they can do anything is stupid. Some people have the most hair-brained ideas at times, and those should be discouraged, but with good reasoning. That way the person can move on to better ideas. Like instead of trying to fly out of a tree, trying to dive into a deep pool. Example courtesy of my little cousin. They wanted to know how it felt like to be in the air. Ah... youthful innocence.
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ToddNTheShiningSword Featured By Owner Jul 20, 2012  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Yeah, but what looks hare-brained to one person might not to another, or might actually be possible.

But yeah, that just goes back to the reasoning part. If you give reasoning for why an idea is bad, then the child can still go for it, without doing something excessively stupid and pursuing an idea that's too wild.

I like your answer to this don't give yourself away question. You have the best answer.
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partypoison2 Featured By Owner Jul 18, 2012
im lucky that my family supports me so much in my art. my parents encourage me to become an artist and without that i probably wouldnt be as good as i am now. its unfortunate that so many parents tell their kids not to pursue their dreams :/ i have a friend who is an absolutely amazing artist, but her parent dissaprove of her doing art and dont want her to be an artist..
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MeFlyingFree Featured By Owner Jul 17, 2012  Professional General Artist
This is wonderful! Very well done, and one that is very deserving of a DD. Congrats on that, but more importantly congrats on the feel of the photo itself.
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